BIANCA CONSTANTIN

Hola beautiful people,

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I’m Bianca, I’m 25 and I’m originally from Romania now living in Hertfordshire. I lost my mum to ovarian cancer when I was 18, in June 2014. 

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There is no one-way guide to grieving and I chose to deal with my grief silently for a couple of years after my mum’s death. Being an only child, I didn’t want to be a burden on my dad, my extended family or my friends. I thought it was my weight to carry and so I did. I wanted to prove to myself that I am strong enough to keep my grief to myself. But that can be very isolating and in retrospective, it only made it harder for me to navigate through life on my own. 

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Whilst at uni, I was offered to join the parental loss group in 2016 and I declined at the time as I didn’t want to face my grief and talking about how I felt was extremely difficult. The idea of talking to a group about my story was my worst nightmare so I decided against it, hoping that things would get better with time. But little did I know that 2 years later I was going to be dealing with the exact same feelings. My grief caught up with me again and I finally found the strength and courage to push myself to join the group. It was the best decision I had ever made for myself up until that point, and probably to date to be frank. I found strength in talking about my loss and my feelings and I now have a very special and unique bond with a bunch of beautiful people.

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So, whether you are ready to talk about your grief or not, I hope that here at Grieve and Groove you can find something that’s for you, whatever stage you’re at. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and that even though we all have unique situations, we all have something in common and that will never change.

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Lots of love,
Bianca